Hey Guys, Mike here,

If you are looking for the best way to overcome the paralyzing task of giving a toast or speech at your own wedding, then I’m glad that you’ve found this website and I strongly suggest you keep reading…

This is my uncensored story of overcoming fear regarding that dreaded groom wedding speech.  I’m going to share with you the good, the bad and the ugly - what stuff didn’t work and finally helped me overcome my fear and anxiety enough to achieve my goal of giving a great groom’s speech at my wedding.

A bit about my story…

First of all, I’m petrified of public speaking of any kind.  The thought of getting up in front of a group of people is enough to make me want to vomit – the stress is that bad.  I don’t exactly know where the fear started – perhaps in high school where we got those awful projects where you had to make a presentation.  AND, I swore to myself that I would NEVER put myself again in a position where I would have to speak to a crowd of people.

Then, along comes Linda… she hit me like a freight train – and boy, I got it bad.  We did the dating thing and then it was time to move to the next level – marriage.  I scrimped and saved and got her the best ring I could afford (rings aren’t cheap – especially what she likes ).  Then I did it, I popped the question.  We were excited.  Then the hard part came in – the wedding preparation.  So were doing all the usual picking out dishes and stuff – we started talking about the wedding ceremony and then it hits my like TON OF BRICKS.  I was going to have to make a speech at my wedding.  My blood ran cold…

This is a huge moment and it was no time to wimp out – not now.  The stakes were too huge to imagine.  I was going to have to face this fear as best I could.  So what was I really afraid of?  Looking like a fool in front of all those people, in front of Linda, in front of her parents.  I could just envision myself getting up and totally losing my cool and saying ‘dah, dah, dah’. I had to find a solution.

It occurred to me that I might be able to get some pointers from other guys who have already gone through this and not botched it.  I started asking around my circle of friends and I got a few pointers here and there, but for the most part, most of them just kinda winged-it.  That was no use to me whatsoever.  I did some other research – like at the bookstore and the internet, but the information was really scattered.

Although, very late in the process, eventually stumbled across a little gem of a book – an ebook actually, about giving groom wedding speeches (what I learned from this book on groom wedding speeches is a lot).  For me, it was a life saver because I was having to frantically check all over the place for every little bit of information I needed.   All in one place, it really addressed the majority of my issues in single resource.

On criticism,  however…

The author used the 1st few pages to talk about general wedding fluff – which I thought was a waste of paper.  For me, I don’t like fluff, I want to get right down to the meat – however, he eventually delivered the goods.

Some additional things…

The guide talked about planning and preparation for the groom wedding toast (huge help for me) as well some great techniques for dealing with my ultra-hyper nervousness.  Another helpful thing is the author gives lots of content, which was very helpful to help get my own ideas – I simply used some of his as a template to make my own.

In summary, I think you’ll get a lot out of it - I found it indispensable.