Tip #1 – Get Organized
Being organized for your groom’s wedding speech is pretty essential for success, unless you are one of the rare few who can wing it.
You want to get your information/facts collected, at the very latest, the night before.
Tip #2 – Try Not to Drink Alcohol Until…
- Fact – alcohol affects your judgment.
- Fact – alcohol can make you slur your speech.
- Fact – alcohol can cause you say things that you may not want to say.
If you must drink, do yourself a favor and wait until after your speech is done. If you must imbibe (say for adhoc toasts), do so very sparingly.
Tip #3 – Make Sure to Get a Least 8 Hours of Sleep
This is going to be a tough one, especially if your groomsmen have scheduled a fun bachelor party. However, trying to give this very important speech while sleepy can be tough. You don’t want to yawn in the middle of it, if you know what I mean. If you are the least bit skiddish about speaking in front of others, you are going to need to be well-rested to help calm your nerves.
Filed under Groom Wedding Speech, Ideas, Tips by on Sep 5th, 2009. 
Probably the hardest thing for me when thinking about coming up with the groom’s wedding toast is coming up with good ideas for what to actually say. In some ways, I had so many thoughts and options that I felt paralyzed – like I couldn’t make up my mind to decide – if that makes any sense.
I started doing the usual brain-storming thing, writing down everything that came to mind – not judging it, but just writing it all down. This exercise was very helpful for me – it helped me uncluttered my brain. I had a ton of material to choose from.
And then it occurred to me that there is a remove possibility that my speech content me conflict or overlap with my bride’s content, so at a high-level, I should probably have a little chat with her about what she and I could talk about – we shouldn’t be telling the exact same stories! So we met together, kind of worked it all out in at a high level. Although, in hindsight, because men and women communicate so differently, they could tell their version of the same story and it will be equally interesting because of the different view points.
So, some tips for you in trying to brainstorm for your wedding speech ideas…
Go to a physical place where you feel very comfortable – for me, it’s a coffee shop.
Write down every thought, good or bad or ugly on paper – don’t judge anything at this point. You want to get about 100 things on paper if you can – it’s really pretty easy to do, especially if you’ve been dating a while.
Then go through your list and look for high-level themes – or different points that somehow relate to the same story. If you have a lot of funny elements related to a single event, then that may be something to tell.
Try to whittle your short stories down to about 3 to 4 – no more than that, else your speech will be too long. Pick the best of the best.
Filed under Groom Wedding Speech, Ideas by on Aug 14th, 2009.
